Presence is the Best Preparation
Presence is the Best Preparation I’ve spent a great deal of time in my life preparing for future events: coaching sessions, meetings, presentations, performances, and any number of other occasions. The other day, as I was talking to a client about preparing for a specific event, it occurred to me that preparation is a tool […]
The Woman Who Made the Sun Come Up
The Woman Who Made the Sun Come Up — Once, long ago (or maybe yesterday) there was a hard-working woman who woke up every morning two hours before daylight.
It could be summer or winter, but she never failed to be up at the appointed time. It was a testament to how seriously she took her job, which was to make the sun come up each morning. She thought of herself as the Sun Bringer.
Judgment is the Tripwire
Perfectionism has two accomplices. Without them, it can’t appear. The two are judgment, and resistance. When I judge something, several things happen. First, I’ve completely lost sight of the true nature of whatever I happen to be judging. That judgmental thought sets up a physical feeling of resistance. At that point, because I’m resisting that […]
A Non-Practicing Perfectionist
During the decades I was a practicing perfectionist, I could always find one more thing that had to be made perfect before I could relax and feel safe. So I kept doing that “one more thing.” Unfortunately, it was never the “right” one more thing that I believed would give me peace. Like most perfectionists, I was […]
Self-Consciousness is an Illusion
Next time you feel self-conscious, you might want to reflect on this: just who is this self I seem to be conscious of? We live in a world of appearances, and when we believe what appears to be real, is real, we tend to get ourselves in trouble. Self-consciousness is the perfect example of an appearance we mistake […]
Life Knows What You Need
Life Knows What You Need All through this morning, I seemed to be having a difficult time getting to the work I had committed to doing. Other, seemingly unrelated ideas kept presenting themselves. I’ve learned to listen to that signal and obey the impulse to capture a thought when it first comes to me. They […]
Can You Run Out of Love?
Can You Run Out of Love? Well, you can try, but the feeling of having run out of love is always temporary. In truth, even when you feel like you’ve run out of love, what you’ve really done is to become overwhelmed. You’re feeling too much at one time, so you sort of shut down. […]
How Much Alike Are We?
How Much Alike Are We? For most of my life, when I encountered someone, the first thing I noticed was how different they seemed from me. By doing that, I instantly made them into an “other.” This focus on how they differed from me made it impossible for me to see the being that person […]
Streaming Love
Streaming Love We live in the age of streaming, where the ability to watch almost anything anytime we want is available to us. Many of us have streaming services we pay for, but never watch. What if there were a streaming service we were born with? And what if this streaming service gave you more […]
Perfectionism is a Form of Blindness
Perfectionism is a Form of Blindness Life is full of wonderful surprises. You are full of wonderful surprises. Sometimes those surprises are beautifully obvious. At other times, they’re withheld from your view. When a surprise is obvious, it might be because you’re willing to take life, and the surprise it’s offering up, on life’s own […]