Seeing Beyond Your Personal Story
Seeing Beyond Your Personal Story We all have stories about ourselves, and many of us have one particular story that seems to explain to us who we are, and how we got to be that way. Stories are the way humans make sense of life, so it follows that we would create stories about our […]
What if Anger Were the Only Emotion You Could Feel?
What if Anger Were the Only Emotion You Could Feel? What if anger were the only emotion you allowed yourself to feel? Anger has become a drug to vast numbers of people, and it’s not difficult to see why. Anger can only ever come from one place; anxiety, which is a result of only one […]
Trying to Know the Unknowable, Trying to Control the Uncontrollable
Trying to Know the Unknowable, Trying to Control the Uncontrollable I’ve come to realize that when I try to know what’s essentially unknowable, I’ll get myself tied in knots, with absolutely no benefit, and nothing useful learned. The same is true when I try to control what is essentially uncontrollable. It gets me nowhere and […]
Perfectionism is NOT Your Superpower
Perfectionism is NOT Your Superpower
If you had a habit that cut you off from all the qualities you need to successfully navigate life, would you want to know about it?
Making Decisions You Won’t Ever Regret
Making Decisions You Won’t Ever Regret I’ve never bothered to try to tally up the bad decisions I’ve made in my life, but like every other human, there have been plenty of them. I’ve noticed the decisions I regret all have a common thread running through them; they were all made from what I now […]
Real Compassion
Real Compassion Compassion means to feel along with others There may be a reason why we see less real compassion in the world than we’d like to see. Though it’s a word we hear often enough, just exactly what it seems to be largely misunderstood. Compassion means to feel along with others. When you feel […]
Who Do You See When You Look at Yourself?
Who Do You See When You Look at Yourself? When you look at a reflection of yourself in a mirror or watch a video of yourself, who do you see? Who’s looking back at you? After working as a presentation coach for many years, it became clear to me that when I sat with my […]
What if it Were Less Work to Be You?
What if it Were Less Work to Be You? How much work does it take to be you? There’s a good chance you’ve never stopped to reflect on that question, but that question may hold the key to an easier life, and a life of greater contentment. Does it make sense that just being you […]
Paralyzed by Perfectionism
Paralyzed by Perfectionism What I didn’t realize during the long years I was a perfectionist is how much work I was doing just to feel safe, just to feel OK. It’s common for perfectionists to believe that they’re more capable in the driver’s seat than life is, and I had absolute belief in that delusion. […]
Just What is Perfectionism?
Just What is Perfectionism? One day last week I was having lunch with an old friend I hadn’t seen for a while. As we were catching up, I was describing a new group course I’m launching called, Relaxed High Performance: Moving Beyond Perfectionism. As we talked, it became clear to me that we had completely […]