The Future that Never Arrives
The Future that Never Arrives I’ve found myself thinking about perfectionism and the powerful spell it can cast over those of us who engage in it. A phrase came into my head that sums up the cost of perfectionism to the person held in its spell. Perfectionism is never about the present moment. It’s always about […]
Getting Over it, or Getting Past it?
Getting Over it, or Getting Past it? A client of mine is in the middle of what could be called a crisis. On multiple levels, the world they thought they lived in has come apart. Their job, marriage, and sense of being at home in themself and the world have all exploded. They’re in crisis […]
Reacting from Fear, or Responding with Love?
Reacting from Fear, or Responding with Love? There’s no shortage of horrifying events going on around us. This seems to be particularly true lately, with a brutal, needless war raging in Ukraine, and mass shootings happening with discouraging regularity. As I see these things happening, one after another, at times I find myself feeling overwhelmed. […]
What I Know About Love
What I Know About Love Today is my birthday, and I’ve been reflecting on what I know for sure about love. In the 71 years I’ve been roaming the planet, I’ve often been a slow learner, and some of what I’ll share took me decades to realize, but I’m grateful to have learned it. What […]
What if Happiness is Just the Absence of Resistance?
How many times have you looked within yourself to find happiness, without any of the external factors we assume contain happiness?
Curiosity and Happiness
Curiosity and Happiness I’ve come to a new appreciation of the value of curiosity, and I’m really just talking about being curious with all aspects of life. What I’ve seen is that when I’m curious, life has a newness and freshness to it that goes missing when I’m not in a curious state of mind. […]
The Peace You Are Looking For
The Peace You Are Looking For A peaceful state of mind is everyone’s birthright, so it’s strange how we regard it as something elusive, something that can only be captured if circumstances are just right. How much time and energy do you spend looking for peace? Like a great deal of what we search for, […]
Where Did You See Perfection Today?
Where Did You See Perfection Today? Where did you see perfection today? You may have not been aware of seeing it at all. It’s always all around us, but I’ve noticed that sometimes I can see it clearly, and sometimes, it seems to be completely absent. How much perfection I’m able and willing to see […]
What Worrying Accomplishes
What Worrying Accomplishes This would be an extremely brief blog if I gave you the short answer, because the short answer is, worrying never accomplishes anything. Then why in God’s name do we do so much of it? Because it gives the illusion of really getting something done. It can feel that way because worrying quickly […]
Becoming and Being
Becoming and Being I was watching our old black cat this morning. He loves for any time to be meal time, and he can get a little carried away with his love for food. Maybe it would be more accurate to say, he can get so involved looking and begging for food that he can’t […]