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Not Self-Help, Self-Recognition

If You Don't Believe What I Believe, You're a Bad Person (Part 1)

I dislike the term, “self-help.” The best help we can give ourselves is to recognize who we really are, underneath all the ideas we have about ourselves. Self-help material tends to reinforce the ideas we have about our identities, because they take the identities we create for ourselves and treat them as though they’re our real identities, as though they’re who we really are.